My book club was recently discussing the ways people avoid talking about problems. One woman said that her daughter, who is Jewish, was being shown homes in several suburbs of Chicago. Her realtor would steer her away from listings in towns that would not welcome a Jewish family by saying, “You wouldn’t get a carpool there.” This meant that Mrs. Goldberg would not be able to find 3-4 other mothers who would be want her children in their carpool. Obviously “You wouldn’t get a carpool there,” sounds better than “People in that town are prejudiced again Jewish people.”